"A Nightmare For a Brother"

by Jeremy Swanson

Ottawa 

One of our activists-brothers in Ottawa-one from our local Ottawa support group was supposed to be in court recently. I know him well. I was at court to support him. The case was adjourned even though no settlement was reached. So now he has to go back again. He has a long history of trouble with his ex wife who is almost completely mad in my view. He is a former medical professional who has been ruined completely in family court and lost everything-to the point of total financial destruction. Like so many of us. His horrors know no bounds and there is no end in sight. This in essence is what is happening now:

Because he has been late to drop off his daughter several times recently she wants the court to enforce it because he is in "breach" of the court order. He usually has to wait for her anywhere from 15 minutes to 2 hours but there is no problem in reverse. She can do that. She can 'breach' a court order. She is a woman after all The Court ordered that he can take his daughter to an activity while in the mother's care but since the summer of 2006 she has denied her daughter the right to go to an activity with her father as ordered . However there seems to be no problem for her to disobey a Court order. She is a woman after all. His wife calls the police anytime she wants to and they are always there attending her calls even though there is no reason to attend. She just does it and they just automatically respond. She is a woman after all. And there is outrageous gender bias in the courts. This is the primary reason why this all happens.

She can do all of this without any court ordering that the police intervene. She calls the police, lies to them, makes up stories, exaggerates and generally obfuscates about anything to do with her former husband-and they respond instantly in believing her-whatever her imagination comes up with. Its like a bizarre game of 'pick-a-problem'. He never knows what is going to happen. Or when. There is no stability to the situation. And this goes on an on and on ad nauseum. And now, bored with the routine she has dragged him back into court again. Why? He has done nothing. He is a model citizen and a loving Father. Why? Because she is obsessive and deranged. Why? Because she can. She is a woman after all. And this is Ottawa. This is Canada. It is the norm. There is no truth. There is no honesty. There is no justice. Not for men.

Can you imagine now what she will do to our brother if the Court accepts her motion? She is also asking the court to rule that he pay her lawyer's fees of $5,000.00 but, "if he agrees to the police enforcement" then she will accept $1,000.00. This is a classic double-edged blackmail. And she is convinced the court will do this. And they might. We all know that there is only "judge’s law" in Canada these days. he can't pay it anyway. He cannot even afford to eat properly. There is no clear picture emerging as to how long this "deal" would go on for-even if he did accept it. This is an ongoing question with no apparent emerging answer. It will go on and on and on for who knows how long. This is a woman who cannot stop her compulsive behaviour until she gets what she wants. Clearly she wants our brother dead. She wants to kill him and he is of mind that she will have to do that before he gives up. And he certainly will fight on until someone in the judicial system (psychologist or psychiatrist et al) has the courage to diagnose her and tell it like it is and what she is and has done.

So far because of the system that we have she has gotten away with her lies to the police, the CAS, the Criminal and Family Court, the Family Court Clinic, the Arbitrator. But in this society of inequality and bias but all of those are supporters of immoralities, lies and false and malicious accusations. All the ingredients that make the divorce industry thrive. And all on the backs of men like our brother in Ottawa. His case and his valiant fight for justice and for his daughter's well being is a living example of one man's courage and refusal to give up his rights and that of his daughter. it’s also an example of the gross imbalance between the rights of men and women in our society. The Charter of Rights notwithstanding.

Remember they do this to us because they can. And they do this because we let them.